The most important relationship to prioritise in life is the one with…. YOURSELF!
Treating yourself like someone you dearly love means implementing daily self-care tools that improve self-awareness and self-compassion.
Why?
Because cultivating a loving relationship with yourself generates not only positive feelings, but also the courage to live, to laugh, and love to your fullest capacity.
You might be thinking, "OK, I get it intellectually, but gosh, how does one love oneself without being selfish or overindulgent?"
And this is the tricky part: self-love does not mean feeling good all the time; in contrast, self-love requires us to go to those places that hurt, are insecure, and are unexplored. Self-love requires us to be honest with ourselves, forgive ourselves when we make mistakes, take ownership of our actions and feelings, and be kind to ourselves. This is hard as nobody has ever taught us these skills. Instead, for most of us (guilty of it myself!) it's much easier to avoid painful places within us and pretend that they don't exist. For this reason, we often use food, work, exercise, sex, retail therapy, or other numbing practices as diversions, that’s the problem. Or we go to another person to take care of us (a friend, partner, therapist). Some of us might also plunge into achieving external success in the hope that those unresolved insecurities somehow will be fixed once we find the guy/girl, get the job, get thinner, get the promotion, get the house, and so on. Sadly none of these will ever be enough to ease the feeling of disconnectedness that has been caused by our self-judgments, emotional additions, and unrealistic expectations we placed upon ourselves. The only way to awaken the true joy within us is to fill that well of emptiness and bring light to those parts of us that we chose to neglect and are ashamed of. It's time to embark on a journey of self-discovery, forgiveness, compassion, and acceptance. Time to learn how to be here and now for yourself, no matter what.
I, together with a dear friend and meditation teacher Jelena, have designed a beautiful 21-day ‘fall in love with yourself’ journey. The course starts on August 1st and takes you through the building blocks of self-love. Space on the course is limited to a maximum of 15 people, so sign up as soon as you see this- it’ll be well worth it. During your time with us, you will learn how self-communication is key to staying in tune with yourself and finding that loving place within. You will discover, and learn how to walk hand-in-hand with the inner lover within you throughout your life, who will constantly romance you even when life gets hard.
With love,
Iza
Coaching Psychologist and Relationship Coach
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